Tuesday, February 28, 2006

The Joys Of Having A Fan Club

rabbik.jpg (8583 bytes)I guess I should feel honored that I have my own personal harasser/stalker.

My harasser must be think I'm doing a good job at advocating for Jewish Survivors of Sexual abuse and Sexual Assault. If I wasn't he would be ignoring me and my blog.

Today my e-mail account was hacked into. I never store anything there. I wanted to let everyone know I have a new e-mail address.

My guess is that the assailent must be the individual who has nothing better to do but stalker/hacker The Awareness Center's board of directors (including Vicki Polin), and the survivor who runs the blog: Rabbinic Sexual Misconduct Survivor.

My guess it's the one and only famous rabbi who lives in Boca Raton.

Monday, February 27, 2006

Child pornography has expanded into a business so profitable it is no longer limited to pedophiles.

Let’s Fight This Terrible Crime Against Our Children
By Andrew Vachss
Parade Magazine - February 19, 2006

Also see: Child Pornography

PARADE Contributing Editor Andrew Vachss has made the protection of our most vulnerable citizens his life’s work. He is an attorney whose practice, for nearly four decades, has been devoted exclusively to the representation of children, many of them victims of sexual abuse. This experience has made him an outspoken advocate for the dignity and rights of children, a theme he also has pursued through his best-selling novels. This week, we ask readers to join Vachss’ call-to-arms against a despicable crime that is growing at an alarming pace.

Statistics show that child pornography is the fastest-growing of all Internet businesses, estimated to bring in several billion dollars a year. But while such information may enrage or frighten us, it changes nothing. Our knowledge of cold statistics will not alter the conduct of those who take pleasure or profit in the exploitation of children. Instead, if we are to wage war, we must know our enemy. We need to know more about those who create this unspeakable “product,” why they do it and the various ways it is used.

The term “pornography” may give rise to discussions about what constitutes art. It may invoke issues of free speech or censorship. But no matter how you feel about pornography in general, child pornography does not belong in that debate. No child is capable, emotionally or legally, of consenting to being photographed for sexual purposes. Thus, every image of a sexually displayed child—be it a photograph, a tape or a DVD—records both the rape of the child and an act against humanity.

Child pornography has become a business so profitable that it is no longer limited to pedophiles. Demand exceeds supply and always will. (Some pedophiles, if they had the resources, would acquire a copy of every single piece of child pornography ever produced.) The risk/gain ratio is extremely favorable. And the return on investment is extraordinary. What crime syndicate would pass up such an opportunity?

Compare production of child pornography with another syndicate crime: trafficking in cocaine. Effective production of cocaine requires control of the cultivation fields, maintenance of private armies, complex laboratory skills and equipment, smuggling expertise and many levels of bribery. Because of harsh international drug laws, moving large quantities means risking a life sentence or, in some countries, a death sentence. As a result, those in the production chain have a great incentive to inform upward if captured.

And, even when the syndicate succeeds, it must then begin all over again. Once cocaine is sold, it is gone.

In contrast, production of child pornography requires only equipment that anyone can buy at a local mall. Because much of the original product is “home-grown”—produced by the parents or caretakers of the victims and then offered for distribution to a syndicate—the risk of capture is low. And the penalties are much lower than they should be, considering both the damage done and the profit realized. Once the images are created, they can be copied forever. Even seizure of the original pictures means nothing: Images on the Internet can never be destroyed. The only things “used up” in the child pornography business are its victims.

We justify draconian sentences for drug trafficking because it “hurts our children.” And it does. But no mere words could ever truly describe the daily torture of victims who were forced to participate in child pornography years ago and now, as adults, see images of themselves “performing” on the Internet. Do I believe that those who “merely collect the images” would stop if they heard that same pain? No. All pedophiles—even the ones who describe their predatory conduct as “love”—lack empathy. The pain of others is immaterial to the pursuit of their own pleasures. And for the overt sadists, such pain would only increase the value of their “collections.”

That is why we must begin to treat so-called “simple possession” of child pornography as the heinous crime it is. Every purchase of child pornography encourages further growth of this evil business: from “custom” child pornography—the sale of images of child rape created to order for the consumer—to “real-time” child pornography, where subscribers pay to watch the streamed online rape of children as it occurs. Still another market exists in recorded images of children being physically abused, even tortured. Some of these are marketed outright for the sexual gratification of the viewers, while others are camouflaged as “instructional materials for disciplinarians.”

I understand there are those who innocently (if unwisely) click a hyperlink received in an e-mail and find themselves looking at child pornography. That does happen. But it doesn’t happen to the same individual dozens of times. Ask any investigator how many images are found on the average hard drive of a computer seized pursuant to a warrant, and “thousands” is the number you will hear most often.

Personal arousal or stimulation is certainly one reason for collecting child pornography. But there are more sinister uses. One is to desensitize potential victims. Today’s children are creatures of the media. What they see in the movies must be “what other kids do,” and the predatory pedophile skillfully introduces child pornography among other child-enticing “games” offered during the “grooming phase.” This allows him to gradually lower the child’s resistance. This is yet another reason to radically increase the penalties for simple possession of child pornography. It is not just some degenerate form of entertainment; it is a deadly weapon that creates new victims.

Beyond that, child pornography also is used by pedophiles as personal validation. Each image tells the collector that he (or she) is not a pervert but a victim, one whose sexual interests—although unaccepted by a “repressive society”—are shared by many. Treatment specialists are always telling us that pedophiles suffer from low self-esteem. The truth is that nothing raises the self-esteem of such individuals more than the certain proof that they are not alone. And such validation is never more than a mouse-click away.

Now that we know what child pornography really is, we can understand the monstrous danger it poses to children throughout the world. The question then becomes: What can we do?

First, we must raise the stakes. With significantly higher penalties—for everything from simple possession to production with intent to distribute—we will immediately accomplish two things: 1) Some purchasers and producers will be deterred, because the risk/reward paradigm will have suddenly shifted. 2) As for those who refuse to be deterred, we will be able to incapacitate them for very long periods via extensive prison sentences.

Second, we must abolish the statute of limitations, both civil and criminal, on acts involving the production of child pornography. This will preserve each victim’s opportunity to sue even if his or her individual identity is not discovered until many years have passed. It will also foreclose the “Internet defense,” meaning that there will be no need to prove the date on which the original sexual victimization was recorded.

Third, to further deter criminal syndicates, we must enact federal laws to allow the United States to sue on behalf of any as-yet-unidentified children depicted in seized child pornography. This will allow predators to be immediately stripped of their property and profits, which can be held in escrow until their victims are identified.

Fourth, we must recognize that child pornography is an international crime. Many of the servers that contain and distribute it are safe-housed in foreign countries. Typically, a “gateway” operation is set up to protect credit card users from discovery when they purchase child pornography from overseas merchants. But when such a Web site’s defenses are broken, too often only the American participants ever see the inside of a prison or face forfeiture of their filthy profits. Since we bring economic sanctions against countries that commit human-rights violations, why should we do less when child-pornography syndicates operate with the clear complicity of their governments overseas?

We should negotiate full-cooperation treaties with all the governments with whom we do business, so that child-pornography syndicates have no protection, no matter where they are housed. We should not be misled by noble-sounding rhetoric: When foreign governments claim that this is a privacy issue, they are in fact simply protecting organized crime—and are being well paid to do so. When a U.S. investigation reveals an overseas component to a child-pornography ring, our government must demand full access to all available evidence and insist that the host country will prosecute all offenders and enforce appropriate penalties.

Finally, we must acknowledge that a war cannot be fought without resources, and then demand that our legislators commit those resources. For this war, we need more trained investigators, more computer experts, the most advanced equipment—and the federal muscle to force cooperation from other governments (while, of course, offering them the same).

Child pornography is a multi-victim crime and a multibillion-dollar business. We already know what children are “worth” to predatory pedophiles and criminal syndicates. Now is the time to show the world what they are worth to us.

Location for Jewish Self-Help Groups/Networks Needed

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There's a group of us who have organized and want to start (in person) self-help/networking groups for Jewish Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Assault (for both men and women) in every community around the country (and around the world).

We are desperate to find a location to hold these groups. There are so many survivors who are interested in attending.

Originally our goal was to hold the meetings in local synagogues as a way to help survivors over come their fears, and also to help turn a synagogue into a safe place for them.

Several of us have gone to other self-help groups over the years, yet felt uncomfortable attending because they were often held in churches.

As of today every rabbi we have approached has turned us down.

It's very sad that several churches around the country have heard of our plight and offered us space, and also funding to do the necessary training to leaders. We are really trying to hold off so that we can find Jewish locations and funding.

If you know of a location, please let us know. We really do NOT want to hold meetings in JCC's for various political reasons.

Please contact me at jewishsurvivors at yahoo dot com, and I will pass your contact information on to the individuals organizing the networks.

We are also looking for funding so that we can train survivors to lead the Jewish Survivors Self-help/Network groups.

  • if you have a group of 10 women, 3 will most likely be survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
  • if you have a group of 10 men, 2 will also most likely be survivors.
  • every 2 1/2 minutes someone in the US is sexually assaulted (both men and women).

Hypocrisy of Our Rabbunim - The Games They All Play

Over the last few years The Awareness Center (the Jewish Coalition Against Sexual Abuse/Assault) has been under attack for past association with Luke Ford, author of Yesterday's News Tomorrow.

I've been told by a few reliable sources that a past rabbinic advisory board member (of The Awareness Center), who has connections with Aish HaTorah; was the individual who made the introduction between Luke and The Awareness Center. I was also told that the rabbi was totally aware of Mr. Ford's connection with porn industry at the time.

Luke Ford has been extremely instrumental in publishing a few cases where no one else was willing to. The problem is that Mr. Ford makes a living writing about the porn industry and also by linking porn sites to his.

The majorty of individuals in the porn industry have histories of childhood abuse. I have no idea if Luke is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, yet he does describe himself as having a troubled childhood.

I've recently been made aware that many of the same rabbunim who have been publicly denouncing The Awareness Center, have been leaking information to Luke Ford on various cases.

The reasoning behind the leaks has to do with the fact that NO Jewish papers are willing to publish the stories.

I definitely understand their desire to leak the information, yet strongly feel the denouncing of The Awareness Center NEEDS to stop. I personally feel that each of the rabbis who have been leaking the information, needs to make a public apology to The Awareness Center for these attacks.

Sunday, February 26, 2006

Police detain Aron Tendler in Israel … BUT not on the child sexual abuse allegations.

JWB says:

I suspect this is a mere ploy for some “hero” publicity as being “persecuted” by Israeli security services.

Frankly, you keep identification on you in Israel because it is necessary, these security checks keep Israelis safe.

Orthodox tourists claim police prejudice
Matthew Wagner,
THE JERUSALEM POST - Feb. 26, 2006

Aldo see: The Case of Rabbi Aron Tendler

A group of Orthodox Jews visiting Israel from Los Angeles said Israeli police discriminated against them on religious grounds by preventing them from entering the Temple Mount Sunday.

But police said the group failed to produce identification and were, therefore, not authorized to enter the Temple Mount area until they produced it.

A group of eight, all congregants of the Sha'arey Zedek Synagogue, San Fernando Valley's largest orthodox synagogue, who were in Israel for a Bar Mitzva, blamed the police for discrimination.

"About 30 seconds after we were detained a group of about 50 non-Jews were allowed to enter without ID," said Rabbi Aron Tendler, the rabbi of the synagogue.

"The policemen at the entrance to the Mount told us that gentile tourists are usually not required to show ID, only religious Jews."

A police spokesman rejected Tendler's accusation that police discriminated against the group because they were orthodox Jews, but admitted that police do conduct "selective" ID checks.

"We try to single out potentially extremist elements," said the spokesman. "But the checks are not made to discourage anyone from entering the mount."

The police spokesman added that it was impossible to check every person who enters the Temple Mount because it would cause delays.

The group's tight itinerary prevented it from retrieving IDs and returning to the Mount, said Yossi Maimon, the group's tour guide.

Tendler, grandson of the famous halachic authority Rabbi Moshe Feinstein, said that he and his congregants did not bring ID or other valuables with them because they had been at the mikveh [ritual bath] and were afraid that while they were immersing themselves their valuables would be left unguarded.

According to Jewish law, it is necessary to purify oneself in a mikveh before entering the Temple Mount.

Also, Tendler felt that it was preferable from a halachic point of view to leave all mundane items outside the Temple Mount out of respect for the holiness of the place.

"We had no intention of making a political statement," said Tendler, who ventured that perhaps it was Bershert [Yiddish for 'it was meant to be'].

"But nevertheless the incident left me incredulous. The holiest place to the Jewish people does not belong to us."

Tendler said that one of the non-Jewish tourists who was allowed to enter the Temple Mount without ID was incredulous also.

"You mean they let us go up but they are not letting you go up even though this is a Jewish state?"


Listing Those Who Honor Predator-Rabbi Aron Boruch Tendler - By Luke Ford

Alleged Sex Offender - Yaakov Menken's Torah.org publishes his Torah essays.

613.org plays his lectures.

The Orthodox Union (a group of Modern Orthodox synagogues throughout North America) had Aron Tendler as a speaker on February 27, 28, 2004. The topic? "Strengthening the Jewish Family"

And what was the title of Aron Tendler's talk? "Ethics in Marriage: How it Enhances Your Marriage"

The OU writes: "Rabbi Aron Tendler...is a recognized champion against domestic violence. He is a member of the Jewish Family Services Domestic Violence Task Force."

Aron Tendler is listed as a faculty member of Netivot: "Netivot, Hebrew for Paths, is an independent center of Torah dedicated to enhancing women's intellectual and spiritual growth through intensive textual study in an inclusive and nurturing atmosphere."

What could be more enhancing to a woman's intellectual and spiritual growth than a good grope from a holy rabbi?

Aron Tendler endorses: "Oorah, which means "Awaken," was founded in 1980 with the goal of awakening Jewish children and their families to their heritage."

After the murder of Yaakov Aminov, 46, on July 4, 2002 at LAX, Aron appeared all over the news media as the dead man's rabbi: "How can it be," said Rabbi Aron Tendler, "that this righteous man was taken, that a mother of five sits alone, that he will no longer make kiddush on Friday night?"

Sample Fax to Rabbi Shalom Tendler's Synagogue (RE: Rabbi Aron Tendler)

Call To Action: E-mail or fax a letter like this to Rabbi Shalom Tendler

Fax:310 276-0734
E-mail: office@yinbh.org

To: Young Israel of North Beverly Hills
RE: Aron Tendler and Shalom Tendler

We are writing to you to let you know that Shalom Tendler has been aware of his nephew’s disgusting acts with minors since 1987 and did nothing. He was responsible for the cover up in 87 when Aron was moved to the boys school and he also spoke to one of Aron’s 16 year-old victims 2 years ago, who tried to commit suicide once the history of what Aron did to her caught up with her.

If Shalom Tendler is not removed from the bima we will go to the mainstream media and make it publicly known that your shul keeps a man on staff who enables a child molester.

Shalom Tendler is Aron's uncle and has been influential in keeping Aron in positions of religious authority (such as teaching at YULA's boys school) despite evidence that Aron molested underage girls at YULA.

The New York Post is aggressively working on a series of articles on Aron and Mordecai Tendler. The Jewish Journal and The Los Angeles Times are also looking into Aron.

One of the founder of Young Israel of North Beverly Hills is Judah Hertz.

The Tendler Family and Chabad of Southern Nevada

If I write about Mordecai Tendler the stats on my blog get high.
If I write about Aron Tendler the stats on my blog get high.
If I write about Cantor Michael Segelson, no one seems to care.

The cases that are out in the news should get the same about of attention. The survivor of the case in Las Vegas NEEDS your support too! Please don't ignore her.

This isn't about getting anyone.
It's about helping people who have been sexually violated heal.
This isn't about bashing a movement of Judaism over another.
It's about bringing all Jews together to help heal our nation.

I am frustrated and angry that more isn't done.
I'm sickened knowing this lovely woman in Las Vegas is fighting a convicted sex offender and the shul that still is trying to cover it up on her own.

The survivors of both Tendler's deserve the help too, don't get me wrong.
Every survivor deserves support and help.
Just don't ignore one over the other.

Saturday, February 25, 2006

This reminds me of the threats being made against Jewish Rape Victim Advocates

Attorney investigating clergy pedophile ring was threatened
By Matt C. Abbott
Renew America - February 24, 2006

Catholic attorney Sheila Parkhill, who for the past few years has been gathering information and evidence to eventually expose a clergy pedophile ring in the Chicago area, received an online greeting card from unknown individuals expressing concern for her and her husband's safety.

She took it as a threat.

"I responded to the e-mail, but it bounced back," says Parkhill. "I also contacted the company from which the e-card came, asking if there was any way to find out who sent it, but they said there really is no way to know."

The ring, known as The Boys' Club, was likely connected to the unsolved 1984 murder of Chicago professor and choir director Francis Pellegrini, who was found brutally stabbed to death just a day before a scheduled meeting with the then Chicago archdiocese vicar for priests.

The ring has been alluded to by priest-novelist-columnist Andrew Greeley — an acquaintance of Pellegrini — in his 1999 non-fiction book Furthermore! Memories of a Parish Priest (page 80):

"...But even in Chicago, the ring of predators about whom I wrote in the paperback edition of 'Confessions' remains untouched. There is no evidence against them because no one has complained about them and none of their fellow priests have denounced them. Those who have been removed are for the most part lone offenders who lacked the skill to cover their tracks. The ring is much more clever. Perhaps they always will be. But should they slip, should they get caught, the previous scandals will seem trivial...."

A footnote says:

"They are a dangerous group. There is reason to believe that they are responsible for at least one murder, and may perhaps have been involved in the murder of the murderer. Am I afraid of them? Not particularly. They know that I have in safekeeping information which would implicate them. I am more of a threat to them dead than alive."

In May 2004, Parkhill wrote a letter challenging Greeley to release the information he claims to have "in safekeeping."

To date, he has not responded to her.

Also, Parkhill was contacted via e-mail by an alleged victim of The Boys' Club. That person expressed fear and has not yet come forward.

Sheila Parkhill can be reached at stparkhill@yahoo.com

Friday, February 24, 2006

A Must Read Book for the Survivors of Mordecai Tendler, and the Kehillat New Hempstead Community

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It will help everyone understand the dynamics of what's been going on, and ways to heal.

Case of unnamed mother, cook at Jewish camp (St. Louis, MO)

Excerpt from article below:
In that case, the father and two sons are suing a Jewish summer camp, saying the camp directors knew the boys were being sexually molested by their mother, and the camp did nothing to protect the boys.

The suit says the mother worked as a cook at the camp, and molested the boys when they visited her as part of court ordered custody arrangements.

The mother is currently serving a prison term for molesting the same teenager who is accusing the priest. That case ended in January, when the mother was sentenced to prison.

Judge Changes Mind; Family Suing Vianney Priest Can Remain Anonymous
St. Louis County Judge Carol Whittington has had a change of heart on whether the family suing the president of Vianney High School can remain anonymous.
KSDK, MO - February 23, 2006

Wednesday, Judge Whittington signed an order after John Doe 26, and his son, John Doe, filed suit against Father Robert Osborne, the president of St. John Vianney High School in Kirkwood. The suit alleges that Father Osborne sexually touched the student.

The judge first ordered that the anonymity must end. But Kenneth Chackes, the attorney for the family, countered with a request the order be rescinded. Chackes says publicizing the family's name would subject the teenager to ridicule and humiliation in the community.

However, an attorney who has represented several priests in similar cases, says it would be good to shine daylight on this case. Attorney James Martin says the family has already been through a previous sex abuse case, and publicity would do little damage.

Thursday evening, Judge Whittington reversed her previous order, and ruled that the suing family can continue to be listed as John Doe on the legal papers.

Meanwhile, the names of the family in question, the father, the alleged victim, his brother, and the boys' mother, are all included in a lawsuit filed in Lincoln County.

In that case, the father and two sons are suing a Jewish summer camp, saying the camp directors knew the boys were being sexually molested by their mother, and the camp did nothing to protect the boys.

The suit says the mother worked as a cook at the camp, and molested the boys when they visited her as part of court ordered custody arrangements.

The mother is currently serving a prison term for molesting the same teenager who is accusing the priest. That case ended in January, when the mother was sentenced to prison.

Prosecutors say the woman assaulted her son in 1999, when he was 10 years old. But the case wasn't prosecuted until 2003. The incidents at the summer camp happened between 1999 and 2000, but weren't reported until May 2005.

Newschannel 5 is not naming the family in this story, since it is our policy to protect the identity of sexual abuse victims.

Thursday, February 23, 2006

WARNING: Rabbi Tsvi (Harlan) David Kilstein, 48, was hard at work smearing the survivors of Rabbi Mordecai Tendler and Victim Advocates

http://ultimate-online-swipe-file.com/pictures/Harlan_Kilstein.jpg Rabbi Harlan Kilstein
There are NO allegations of sexual misconduct against Tsvi Kilstein Yet there are serious allegations of professional misconduct, unethical behavior, and misrepresentation himself as a mental health professional.

At one time Harlan was the principal of a yeshiva in Flordia. He also has past connections with the JDL.

If you or anyone you know feel that you have been victimized by this man, please send me an email, which will be kept confidential.

Statement from a friend of an invidual who went to Rabbi Tsvi Kilstein for assistance (The individual requested their identity be kept confidential):
According to ethics of all mental health professionals, when an individual contacts someone for professional help, for themselves or someone they care about, the conversation are bound by the laws of confidentiality.

When someone impersonates a mental health professional, they can be brought up on criminal charges. I believe that Tsvi Kilstein has been very fortunate that this has not occurred yet.

I’ve known (Name Removed) for many years. I even know how she met Rabbis Tovia and Tsvi Kilstein.

There were a few of us who volunteered on AOL as counter-missionaries trying to protect Jews with little education from being manipulated by those who were really Hebrew Christians.

We often referred individuals to both Jews For Judaism and Outreach Judaism (Tovia Singer’s organization).

(Name Removed) was one of the people we feared was being proselytized to. She had a relative mixed up with one of the groups. As time went on she became educated on the problems, and wanted to help her relative get out of the group. I myself made a huge mistake of encouraging her to contact Tovia Singer. Some time after (Name Removed) contacted Tovia, he referred her to Tsvi Kilstein.

Both presented themselves to (Name Removed) as experienced working with individuals involved in cults. Both Singer and Kilstein were aware that (Name Removed) never had any sort of normal Jewish education.

Their response was to arrange for (Name Removed) to have a full scholarship to a prestigious women’s yeshiva in Jerusalem. Is this something you would do to someone you have deemed insane?

Considering both Kilstein and Singer both told (Name Removed) they had degrees in the mental health field, I really have to question their motives of the recent attacks against her.

There were several of us encouraging (Name Removed) to call Tovia Singer for some time (I believe this was back in 1997 or 1998). We made the mistake of thinking Tovia would be the best person to help her and help her cousin.

Singer told several of us that he had a social work degree, and shared that he was better qualified to deal with cases, since the other organization’s director, had no degree.

I wish we would have verified Tovia Singer’s degree prior to referring anyone to him. Looking back he made us all into fools. We blindly trusted him because he was a “rabbi.”

I remember (Name Removed) telling me that Singer referred her to another rabbi in Florida. She was very apprehensive in communicating with someone else. Again, I feel responsible for not checking him out, and blindly encouraging her to contact him. This “rabbi” was Tsvi Kilstein.

I clearly remember every time (Name Removed) spoke to me regarding her relative or herself, she would state “what I’m going to say is confidential.” I am not a mental health professional, only someone dedicated to keeping Jews Jewish. I understood that what was said -- must be kept private, and would never violate this sacred trust.

I will not go into the details of the issues she struggled with, nor the issues her relative struggled with. I believe when someone shares personal details of themselves with another it is vitally important to honor their request.

It appears quite clear that Tsvi Kilstein, who states he’s an ordained rabbi, and also claimed to be a mental health professional who was dedicated to helping those involved with cults break free; has no problem in breaking confidentiality between someone who came to him for help (for a relative and or themselves).

Tsvi Kilstein goes much beyond violating the sacred trust between a self described “cult expert,” (who claimed to be a mental health professional) to someone reaching out for help.

Over the years (Name Removed) has shared a great deal of her life with me. It’s interesting to hear the difference in what Kilstein is saying, and what (Name Removed) has shared with me.

I wonder how many other individuals have gone to Harlan Kilstein (AKA: Tsvi Kilstein) or Tovia Singer for help, and had confidential conversations embellished over the Internet?

There were several different individuals we assisted (in the Jewish Chat rooms on AOL) over the years who got involved with various Hebrew Christian cults.

There was a fear for some of the individuals we helped that kept coming up. When it came to meeting a counter-missionaries in person; several of them stated they heard that there were times that counter-missionaries would use physical force as a method to “deprogram” them. There was also the fear for a few of the women that they would be raped.

At the time, I thought that these were fears instilled by those trying to keep them from leaving the various groups. The more I learn about Tsvi Kilstein, Tovia Singer and Yori Yanover, and the cast of characters these men associate themselves with, I have to sit back and wonder if there was some truth to these rumors.

The more I’ve been learning about sexual abuse and those who commit these sorts of crimes, I begin to realize how much sense it makes for an offender to pick a career doing Jewish outreach to those who get involved in cults.

When someone is leaving a group where free thought is looked down upon, it makes the individuals an easy target for a criminal mind.

Most individuals don’t know that you can’t automatically trust someone who is a member of the clergy (rabbis, priests, ministers, pastors, etc.). When someone is in need of help they can be manipulated so easily by someone who carries a title, stating they are an ordained clergy member. It’s really scary. It’s as if they go from one cult leader to another.

This is true for those who have gotten involved with any religious group, including survivors of both Aron and Mordecai Tendler, Gafni, Worch, Carlebach, Lipman, etc.


Quote from RebTsvi on various blogs (Please Note: names have been removed):
____ contacted me about her cousin ______. Our initial discussions were only about ______.

If someone comes to a “professional” for help, does that grant the “professional” permission to post conversations on the Internet (conversations that are true or untrue)?


Also See:

No rape/incest exception in new S.D. abortion ban

From Backlash_ology
. . . the [South Dakota] state Senate approved legislation that would ban the procedure except when the woman’s life is in danger. . . . the legislation did not include exceptions for abortions in cases of rape or incest. Republican Sen. Stan Adelstein said it would be “a continued savagery unworthy of South Dakota” to make a woman bear a child if she becomes pregnant as the result of rape.
Also see:

South Dakota Senate passes abortion ban
USA TODAY - February 23, 2006

PIERRE, S.D. (AP) -- South Dakota moved closer to imposing some of the strictest limits on abortion in the nation as the state Senate approved legislation that would ban the procedure except when the woman’s life is in danger.

The bill, designed to spark a courtroom showdown over the legality of abortion, passed 23-12 Wednesday. On Thursday, it was headed back to the House, where lawmakers already approved similar legislation.

Republican Gov. Mike Rounds, a longtime abortion opponent, has said he would “look favorably” on an abortion ban if it would “save life.”

Under the measure, doctors in South Dakota would face up to five years in prison for performing an abortion. The only exception would be for women who need abortions to save their lives.

“In my opinion, it is the time for the South Dakota Legislature to deal with this issue and protect the lives and rights of unborn children,” said Sen. Julie Bartling, a Democrat and the bill’s main sponsor.

Sens. Clarence Kooistra, left, and Ed Olson both voted against the anti-abortion measure, but it cleared the Senate, 23-12.

The legislation targets Roe v. Wade, the landmark 1973 Supreme Court decision legalizing abortion.

Opponents say it is too extreme and unconstitutional. Planned Parenthood, which operates the only clinic that provides abortions in South Dakota, pledged to challenge the measure if it become law.

“South Dakota’s ban is the most sweeping abortion ban passed by any state in more than a decade,” Planned Parenthood Federation of America lawyer Eve Gartner said in a written statement. She said the organization would do everything it could to ensure that women and their doctors, not politicians, made their health care decisions.

Supporters say an anonymous donor has pledged to provide South Dakota with $1 million to help defend the law in court.

The recent appointment of Justices John Roberts and Samuel Alito make the U.S. Supreme Court more likely to consider overturning Roe v. Wade now, Bartling and other supporters said.

“It is a calculated risk to be sure, but I believe it is a fight worth fighting,” said Sen. Brock Greenfield, a Republican who also is director of South Dakota Right to Life.

Some senators, including Republicans, were concerned that the legislation did not include exceptions for abortions in cases of rape or incest.

Republican Sen. Stan Adelstein said it would be “a continued savagery unworthy of South Dakota” to make a woman bear a child if she becomes pregnant as the result of rape.

The Legislature passed a similar bill two years ago, but Rounds issued a technical veto because it would have wiped existing restrictions off the books while the bill was involved in a court challenge.

Including Thursday, the Legislature has five days left before the official end of its session.

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SNAP: How Does Support Group Check Out Allegations Of Clergy Abuse?
KSDK TV - February 22, 2006

The Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests, also known as SNAP, has spoken out on behalf of many plaintiffs suing priests for sex abuse. Because those allegations can ruin a person's reputation we asked the national director how SNAP determines what makes an accusation credible.

David Clohessy explains, "We are a 17 year old self help group for men and women abused by clergy. We basically have 2 mission. One is to help heal the wounded. A second is to help protect the vulnerable."

Since the sex abuse scandal broke 4 years ago in the Catholic Church, SNAP has called many press conferences to single out priests accused of sexual abuse in civil lawsuits. Many allegations, including the latest involving Father Robert Osborne from Vianney, are revealed publicly by SNAP before prosecutors determine if criminal charges will be filed.

We asked Clohessy what measures his organization takes to determine an accusers credibility. "I've talked to literally hundreds if not thousands of men and women who have been abused by clergy, and I've got a pretty good radar. I want to say we don't have private eyes on staff. We don't have the capability to do major investigations, but I would just go back to that track record."

Clohessy says in 17 years only a handful of abuse lawsuits have been thrown out. "I've certainly talked to people whose stories don't add up, and typically I think if they file a lawsuit they will have a hard time finding a lawyer."

Clohessy acknowledged 24 Catholic priests have been cleared of wrongdoing in the past 4 years. "I don't mean to minimize the horror those men have gone through, but to the best of my knowledge they are functioning as pastors. They are not suicidal, as best I can tell.

Clohessy says he is so passionate about the issue because his brother was a priest who abused children.

According to an attorney referred by SNAP, in the past four years 65 sex abuse lawsuits have been filed against 20 members of local clergy. 32 have been settled for $2.7 million and the remaining 33 are pending. 3 of the priests were convicted in court.

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The 411 on 911: Reporting Jewish Abusers to the Civil Authorities

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Safety is the number one priority. In the hierarchy of Jewish legal values, “[Protection from] danger is a more significant factor than [refraining from] ritual prohibitions.”1 But safety can be elusive for victims of abuse and assault. Their batterers and abusers are stronger than they. Batterers and abusers can be manipulative and controlling, and, at times, devious and calculating. Protecting themselves is often difficult and dangerous. Even family members and friends, despite their best intentions, can be powerless. Some are afraid to get involved. Others are paralyzed and frustrated by helplessness, lack of knowledge of what to do, or lack of legal clout and authority.

But Judaism insists that we have a religious duty and moral obligation to protect all members of our community, especially the most vulnerable, including children and adults who are victims of sexual, physical and emotional violence, abuse and impropriety. Failure to protect another in need is a violation of the biblical verses, "You shall not stand idly by the blood of your neighbor" (Lev. 19:16) and “And you shall love your friend as yourself (Lev. 19:18).” Failure to act can constitute a hillul Hashem, a desecration of God's Name.

Although nothing can guarantee absolute safety, there are many means available to victims so that they can be as safe as possible under the circumstances they face. It is important for a victim to develop a safety plan with the help of therapists or domestic violence advocates. These plans may include, among other things, creating a network of supportive family, neighbors and friends; identifying shelters and other social service assistance available to meet immediate and long term needs; identifying a place to live if she chooses to leave her home; depositing keys, important papers, cash, credit cards, medical records, clothing, etc. in a safe and secure place in case they are needed; and understanding the legal options such as calling the police and obtaining an order of protection.

Although not flawless, the civil authorities, through the police and courts, can go a long way in protecting victims. Orders of protection, arrest, imprisonment and removal of children from abusive situations are some of these tools. These concerns obligate us to report child abuse to the civil authorities, and allow victims to seek help in protecting themselves from their abusers. Furthermore, the judicial process can hold perpetrators responsible and accountable for their actions. Despite historic debates and arguments, the consensus of contemporary Jewish religious authorities is that such reporting is religiously mandatory.
1 Hullin 10a.

If all of these are so obviously the right things to do, then what are the problems? Why do some religious authorities prohibit victims to turn to the courts and the police? Are cases of assault and abuse included in the prohibitions of mesirah (reporting fellow Jews to non-Jewish authorities) and arka’ot (adjudicating matters in non-Jewish courts)? What is the status of non-Jewish legislation in the eyes of the Jewish legal system? These issues raise significant theological, legal and practical concerns.

Jewish and Civil Laws
We are obligated to pray for the welfare of the government in whose country we live. Based on the verse, “And seek ye the welfare of the city to where I have carried you away captive, and pray unto the Lord for it; for in the peace thereof shall you have peace,” (Jeremiah 29:7), R. Hanina, the Assistant High Priest, said, “Pray for the welfare of the government, for were it not for the fear thereof, one man would swallow up alive his fellow-man.”2 And we are also duty-bound to obey its laws—dina de-malkhuta dina (the law of the government is the law).3 This statement of the Talmudic sage Samuel, offered without biblical support or reasoning, is undisputed in rabbinic literature and most authorities maintain that dina de-malkhuta is a biblical obligation.4 5
2 Pirke Avot 1:2.

3 Baba Kama 113a, Baba Batra 54b, Gittin 10b, Nedarim 28a.

4 Avnei Miluim to Even haEzer 28:3; Teshuvot Hatam Sofer, Yoreh De’ah 314; Teshuvot Devar Avraham I:1; Teshuvot Binyan Ziyyon 2:15. Bet Shmuel to Even haEzer 28:3 maintains that it is rabbinic.

5 Early rabbinic authorities put forth various reasons justifying the obligation of dina de-malkhuta dina (the law of the government is the law):
1) Social Contract Theory: The residents of a state willingly accepted and obligated themselves to the authority of a certain individual or system of government (Rashbam to Baba Batra 54b, s.v. mi amar). Even if not every individual accepted this obligation formally and explicitly, such obligation is assumed by virtue of his residence or citizenship. (Terumat haDeshen, no. 341.)
2) Land Ownership Theory: The land belongs to the monarch and, as “landlord,” he sets the rules. On threat of expulsion, one must follow them. (Rashba to Nedarim 28a; Rosh to Nedarim, ch. 3, no. 11; Ran to Nedarim 28a.)

3) Right of Conquest Theory: A ruling authority is considered as one who has captured the territory as a result of war, subjugating all residents of that land to him.( Rashba, Ritva and Nemukei Yosef, to Yevamot 46a; Ritva quoted in Shittah Mekubetzet to Baba Metzi’ah 73b. See Tosafot, Yevamot 46a, s.v. ki nafki.)

4) Biblical Rights of Kings Theory: The Bible recognizes that rulers have certain powers and authority. These are outlined by the prophet Samuel, I Samuel 8:11-13, in response to the people’s request for a king. (Kiryat Sefer of Mabit, Hil. Gezeilah, ch.

5.) These powers are afforded both Jewish and non-Jewish authorities. (Bet Yosef, Choshen Mishpat 26 in name of Rashba.) However, this theory is the subject of a dispute. One
school maintains that this chapter is the source of legal authority of kings. The other suggests that Samuel was merely trying to dissuade the people from pursuing the establishment of a monarchy. See Sanhedrin 20b. See Nimukei Yosef, Nedarim ch. 3, who writes that because of the latter position, dina de-malkhuta dina applies only to non-Jewish governments.
Jewish law, based on the revealed word of God, is unique in character, quality, and sanctity. “The law of the Lord is perfect, restoring the soul; the testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple. The precepts of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; the commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes.” (Psalms 19:8-9) Now, from a Jewish perspective, what is the nature of non-Jewish laws? Are the two systems similar? Do they share any common values or themes?

Again, the Psalmist writes, “He declares His word to Jacob, His statutes and His ordinances to Israel; He has not done so with any nation; and ordinances he has not made known to them (Psalms 147:19-20).” Jewish law is divinely communicated and is the expression of the will of God; non-Jewish law is not. And so, if, as many commentators suggest, dina de-malkhuta dina (the law of the government is the law) is the product of a contractual relationship between the rulers and the ruled, then dina de-malkhuta is theologically valueless and is only as enlightened as the parties to the contract make it and Jews are obligated to abide by the law of the land for practical, utilitarian reasons..

However, the authority of dina de-malkhuta may arise from the divine quest for justice, based on the Noahide obligation of dinim (the establishment of a system of
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5) Noahide Law Theory: One of the seven Noahide laws (Tosefta, Avodah Zarah 9:4; Sanhedrin 56 a-b) is the obligation of dinim, i.e., for non-Jewish societies to set up and enforce a system of justice. (See Rambam, Hil. Melakhim 9:1, and Ramban to Genesis 34:13.) Therefore, rulers have biblical warrant to establish laws. (R. Yaakov Antoli, Malmad Talmidim 12a, 71b-72a; Even haEzer to Nizkei Mamon 8:5.)

6) Economic Reallocation Theory: Jewish law recognizes the principle of hefker Bet Din hefker, i.e., the Jewish court has the authority to confiscate personal property and render it ownerless. The Bet Din, in its role as a governmental authority, holds this power and thus, all governmental authorities may exercise this power. (Teshuvot Devar Avraham I:1.)

7) War Casualty Theory: Based on the verse “My vineyard, which is mine, is before me. Thou, O Solomon, shall have the thousand, and those that guard the fruit thereof, two hundred, (Song of Songs 8:12)” the Talmud states, “A government that [by going to war] causes one out of six to be killed is not punished.” (Shevu’ot 35b.) This verse recognizes the legal authority of a state to wage war, thus granting it legitimate governmental authority in this and in other areas. (Teshuvot Hatam Sofer, Orah Hayyim, no. 208 and Hoshen Mishpat, no. 44.)
justice),6 and thus, has significance and value for Jews as well. This religious value may explain its significance even in Jewish law. The Talmud states that all documents that are issued by a non-Jewish court, even if witnessed and certified by non-Jews, are valid. The exceptions to this general principle are gittin (Jewish bills of divorce) and writs of manumission.7 Rashi explains the distinction: Gittin are invalid because non-Jews have no standing with regard to Jewish marriage and divorce. They are not able to enter into these relationships and thus cannot effect them in any. Other legal documents are valid however, even if they regulate affairs between two Jews. This is because of dina de-malkhuta dina and because non-Jews do have standing in these matters,8 as Rashi notes, “Noahides were commanded concerning dinim (civil law).”9
In fact, the very nature of Noahide law—whether divine or human—may be what underlies the Talmudic debate as to its Scriptural derivation. The Talmud, Sanhedrin 56b, records a debate between R. Yohanan and R. Yitzchak. Both locate the source of the dinim obligation in two different words in the verse: “And the Lord God commanded the man saying, ‘Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat’” (Genesis 2:16), The former derives it from va-yetzav (and He commanded), and the latter from Elohim (God). The different sources may reflect differences in attitude: R. Yohanan sees the Noahide system of law as a man-made enterprise codified in response to the Divine command and R. Yitzchak views the laws as reflections of God’s divine justice.

If Noahide laws are divine, what did the Psalmist mean when he wrote, “He declares His word to Jacob, His statutes and His ordinances to Israel; He has not done so with any nation; and ordinances he has not made known to them?” (Psalms 147:19-20) One Midrash suggests that while both the Jewish and Noahide systems are divine in origin, the Jewish people were given the details of judicial procedure and non-Jews were not.10 Ran suggests that the Jewish obligation is “to render just and true judgment, for even if such judgment were in itself not required for the functioning of society and filled no immediate need, by virtue of such just judgment, Divine grace will be visited upon our people.” Conversely, the non-Jewish obligation is functional: “the only value of just adjudication is the proper functioning of society.”11

6 Ramban to Genesis 34:13. This is one of the seven Noahide laws that also include prohibitions of murder, theft, forbidden sexual relations, blasphemy, theft and eating the limb from a live animal.

7 Gittin 9a-b.

8 Thus, as a matter of Torah law, non-Jews are valid judges and witnesses in legal matters. See Hagahot ‘Asheri to Gittin, ch. 1, no. 10. See also Teshuvot Radakh, bayit 20; Teshuvot Mabit, I, no. 37; Teshuvot Be’er Yitzhak, Even ha-‘Ezer, no. 5, anaf 6; Teshuvot Mishpetei ‘Uzi’el, III, Hoshen Mishpat, no. 17; Teshuvot Iggerot Moshe, Yoreh De’ah, I, no. 55; and Teshuvot Tzitz ‘Eli’ezer, XIII, no. 105.

9 Rashi to Gittin 9b, s.v. hutz mi-gittei nashim. 10 Midrash Tanchuma to Parashat Shoftim 1.
11 Derashot haRan, Derush 11, 74 (1958). See also Tehumin, VII, p. 275 for a discussion of the position of Rav A.Y. Kook.

On the value of non-Jewish law, R. Yosef Albo wrote,
You will find that although Mosaic Law and Noahide Law differ somewhat in their details, their general principles are the same, coming, as they do, from the same source. Moreover, the two exist concurrently; whilst the Jewish people possess the Mosaic Law, the other nations possess the Noahide law… There is no doubt that the other nations could achieve human success through Noahide law, since it [too] is divine, though not the same degree of success as the Jewish people, whose existence is based upon the Mosaic law. Our rabbis have said, “The righteous of the nations have a place in the World to Come.”12

In explaining the authority and value of Noahide law, R. Isser Zalman Meltzer wrote,
It is clear that with regard to returning property after yi’ush (after the original owner has relinquished ownership by abandoning hope of retrieving his lost property) or stolen property sold by the thief after yi’ush [in which case an innocent buyer is not required to return his purchase to the victim of the theft], the dina de-malkhuta (the law of the land) applies. The reason is that such a regulation is not contrary to the laws of the Torah, since even according to the Torah, it is desirable to exceed the letter of the law. In such a case, the decree of the sovereign is valid. It is an instance of the dinim precept, which means that Noahides are commanded to institute fixed regulations that will be just and not unreasonable. Since this particular regulation is just, although the Torah ruled that property need not be returned after yi’ush, the authority of the Torah does not override it. Only in a case where the king’s decree does not merely demand going beyond the letter of the Torah’s law but actually goes against it, do we rule that the king’s authority does not override the Torah, as in an instance where the king’s decree is discriminatory. In the case of returning a lost article after yi’ush, however, since it is a just regulation, it is valid, for it is within the king’s legitimate authority to issue decrees for the common good.13

Not only does dina de-malkhuta dina enable Jews to function in the mercantile, contractual and legal worlds of non-Jews, it even has consequences in intra-Jewish affairs. The Talmud, Gittin 9a, submits, “Documents executed in non-Jewish courts, even if the signatures upon them are those of idolaters, are valid, except for writs of divorce and writs of emancipation.” Rashi explains that since non-Jews are not parties to Jewish marriage and divorce, the writs of divorce that they sign are invalid. Non-Jews have no standing in this matter. However, since they are obligated in dinim, they are legal actors with standing in other judicial matters. Most importantly, Rashi adds, their standing is based upon the principle of dina de-
12 Sefer ha-Ikkarim 1:25,
13 Even haEzel to Hil. Nizkei Mammon 8:5.
malkhuta dina, and that the signatures are valid even if both parties to a contract are Jews.

The Priority of Jewish Law
“For to Me the Children of Israel are servants, they are My servants whom I have taken out from the land of Egypt, I am the Lord your God” (Lev. 25:55). The exodus from Egypt and the covenant at Mt. Sinai created a claim to our exclusive loyalty to God—we are to be faithful to Him and to no other. Jewish tradition directs us to follow His laws, 613 biblical commandments, which regulate every aspect of our existence, both our God-directed rituals as well as our interactions with others. Religious law mandates that we are bound to follow the laws of the country in which we live (dina de-malkhuta dina14), but only insofar as they do not contradict Jewish religious principles and mandates.
The Torah and its commandments are of primary and paramount importance for the Jewish people. Were we to defer to the law of the land to regulate every activity, we would effectively nullify much of Jewish law and abrogate the Torah itself. Rashba warns:
[Stipulating terms] in monetary matters (contrary to the Torah) is permissible and such conditions are enforceable. However, to adjudicate a certain way because it is the law of the gentiles...is forbidden…and it is prohibited by the Torah, as it states “‘Before them’ and not before [the courts] of gentiles.” [This holds even if] both [parties] agree to it and [even though] it is a monetary matter… If we were to accept this [illegitimate] approach, we would nullify the first-born son’s rights of inheritance and uproot all of Jewish law. What need would we have for holy books written for us by Rabbi {Judah the Prince] and Ravina and Rav Ashi? Jews could simply teach their children the laws of the gentiles and build altars in the gentile houses of study. God forbid that such a thing should ever happen to the Jewish people, God forbid. The Torah itself would wear sackcloth!15

There is a significant debate as to the extent of the application of dina de-malkhuta dina. While all agree that it does not apply to matters of issur ve-heter (ritually obligatory or prohibited activities like Shabbat, kashrut, inheritance and divorce), some do accept it in monetary and commercial matters.16 Others suggest that dina de-malkhuta applies only to dinei malkhut, those areas in which the State has legitimate state interests necessary for the proper administration of government and
14 Gittin 10b; Baba Kamma 113b; Baba Batra 54b.

15 Teshuvot Rashba, VI, no. 254.

16 R. Yeshayah miTrani in Tosafot Rid to Gittin 10b; Teshuvot Hakhmei Provence, Hoshen Mishpat 49; Tashbatz I:158; Teshuvot Sha’ar Efrayim, no. 79; Nahalat Shiva, helek haTeshuvot, no. 31; Teshuvot Bet Shlomo, Hoshen Mishpat, no. 130; Teshuvot Binyan Ziyyon, II:15. See Y.E.Henkin, “BeInyan Dina deMalkhuta Dina”, HaPardes, vol. 31, no. 54, pp. 3-5 and Mishpetei Uziel, mahadura tinyana, III, Yoreh De’ah, no. 92.

for the smooth functioning of society in matters like roads and taxes. Other legislation that encroaches on the social, interpersonal, judicial, cultural, religious and personal areas of life is not included and is regulated by Torah law.17 Ramban limits the force of dina de-malkhuta to those laws or taxes that have been practiced in the past, are common to all jurisdictions, and are part of the founding by-laws of the state. Arguing that it is dina de-malkhuta (the law of the kingdom) that is binding and not dina de-malka (the law of the king), he excludes new legislation passed for benefit the ruler himself or to further his agenda.18 Others disagree and maintain that new taxation and other legislation are binding if they are applied universally and are non-discriminatory.19

Non-Jewish Courts
Despite the legitimacy granted to non-Jewish legal systems, there are significant problems for Jews regarding arka’ot, turning to civil courts for adjudication. “These are the laws which you shall place before them” (Exodus 21:1) says the Torah in its introduction to its chapters on civil law. This verse requires that all legal matters between Jews be submitted “before them,” i.e., rabbinic tribunals, for judgment, and not to non-Jewish judiciaries, religious or secular.20 This prohibition applies even if non-Jewish laws are similar to Jewish law and even if the non-Jewish courts are honest and just.21 If one violates this injunction “he denies God and His Torah,”22 “profanes the Divine Name and ascribes honor to idols,”23 “is wicked and is as though he has reviled, blasphemed and rebelled against the laws of Moses,”24 and “acts as if the Torah of Moses was not truthful.”25 Thus, we are enjoined not only to privilege the Jewish legal system over those of others, but to submit only to its courts
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17 Bet Yosef, Hoshen Mishpat 26 in the name of Rashba; Magid Mishneh, Hil. Malveh veLoveh 27:1; Ramban to Baba Batra 55a; Teshuvot Rivash, no. 203; Maharik, shoresh 187.

18 Hiddushei haRamban to Baba Batra 55a; Magid Mishneh to Hil. Gezeilah va’Aveidah 5:13; Ba’al haTerumot, sha’ar 46, VIII:5; Maharik, shoresh 66; Tashbatz I:155.

19 Magid Mishneh to Hil. Gezeilah va’Aveidah 5:13, 14, 18; Magid Mishneh to 5:13; Choshen Mishpat 369:9; Tur, Hoshen Mishpat quoting Rosh; Yam shel Shlomo, Baba Kamma 10:18.

20 Gittin 88b.

21 See Rabbi Norman Lamm, “Din ha-poneh la-arka’ot ha-memshalah,” Bet Yitzhak 36, 5764, pp. 3-7. Rabbi Lamm points to the opinion of Mordekhai to Gittin 10b who cites the position that it is only unscrupulous, dishonest and unjust non-Jewish courts that are subject to the prohibition of arka’ot; Jews may avail themselves of those non-Jewish courts that have the reputation of being just and honest. Rabbi Lamm points out that this minority opinion is not normative.

22 Tanhuma, Mishpatim 3. 23 Rashi to Exodus 21:1.

24 Hil. Sanhedrin 26:7; Hoshen Mishpat 26:1.

25 Netivot haMishpat 26:4. and judges. All matters between Jews must be redressed only in a Jewish court and only according to Jewish law.

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Now, every government has the right to enforce its own laws within its own borders and to punish those who violate them.

28 However, according to Jewish law, mesirah, “turning over” a fellow Jew to non-Jewish authorities, is one of the most severe offenses that a Jew can commit. So grievous is this transgression that a blessing was added to the thrice-recited daily Shemoneh Esreh, “May there be no hope for the informers.”29 This prohibition of mesirah applies whether the fellow Jew is innocent or guilty, whether the informant is “turning over” the other’s person or property, and even if his fellow Jew is harassing him or harming him in any way. “Any one who turns over a Jew, whether his person or his property has no share in the World-to-Come.”30 The prohibition of mesirah was motivated not only by a concern for the priority of Jewish law, but by anxiety over Jewish self preservation. The exposure and vulnerability of the Jewish community, a relatively defenseless minority subject to the whims and prejudices of a discriminatory, severe majority, were real and dangerous.

Yet, despite this prohibition, many Jews throughout history did appeal to non-Jewish courts. In response to this breach, rabbinic authorities excommunicated some violators, and even ordered others lashed31 or killed.32 These individuals were considered evil and, hence, disqualified to testify in a Jewish court. Furthermore, the funds that they recovered by their illegal litigation were deemed stolen property.33

The result of all of this is that one may not initiate an action against a fellow Jew in a civil court.34 If, however, he is summoned to testify by such a court or if he

26 See Simcha Krauss, “Litigation in Secular Courts,” Journal of Halachah and Contemporary Society, vol. 2, no. 1. For a modern application of this prohibition, see Teshuvot Iggerot Moshe, Hoshen Mishpat, no. 8.

27 Rashba to Gittin 10b. See Shakh to Hoshen Mishpat 73, no. 39, who allows for secular law to be applied in situations of monetary matters which are subject to conditions and stipulations set by the parties to an agreement, or in situations in which there is no explicit halakhic statement. See, however, Hazon Ish, Hoshen Mishpat, likkutim, no. 16, 1 who argues that there are no areas in which there are not halakhic guidelines and principles.
28 Ran to Sanhedrin 46a; Teshuvot Avnei NezerYoreh De’ah, no. 312, secs. 46-52. See also Ritva to Baba Metzia 83b-84a.

29 Berakhot 28b.
30 Hil. Hovel uMazik 8:9; Hoshen Mishpat 488:9.
31 Teshuvot Geonei Mizrah uma’arav, no. 42; Teshuvot Rif, no. 221.
32 Hil. Hovel u-Mazik 8:10; Hoshen Mishpat 388:10. 33 Tashbatz, IV, Tur 3, no. 6 and II:290.
34 Rabbi Moshe Feinstein (Teshuvot Iggerot Moshe, Hoshen Mishpat, no. 8.) ruled that one may not report to civil authorities a proprietor who fraudulently sold non-
must attend in order to defend himself or protect his rights, appearing is permissible.35 As a matter of fact, Rosh asserts that failure testify when required to do so by civil law constitutes a hillul Hashem (desecration of God’s Name).36 However, Rema maintains that if a Jew is subpoenaed to testify in a case which two Jewish litigants inappropriately brought to arka’ot, he may not testify. By testifying he is abetting them in their violation37 and ascribing legitimacy and importance to the non-Jewish courts.38
Jews must appeal to a bet din (rabbinic court) to resolve their disputes and it behooves Jewish communities in Israel and in the Diaspora to establish and support such institutions.39 This is their Torah obligation: “Judges and officers shall you place for yourself in all your gates (Deuteronomy 16:17).”40 Rabbi Yosef Eliyahu Henkin lamented the lack of Jewish courts:
The positive commandment [concerning] appointment of judges is binding also in the Diaspora, (at least in every district), even in our own time. Even in a locale in which there are scholars, the community is not relieved [of its obligation] to appoint designated persons for this purpose. Let us protest the many cities and large metropolises in America that have many Torah-observant individuals but, nevertheless, do not appoint judges and decisors…41
Take Him to Court?
Are there any circumstances in which one may report a fellow Jew to the civil authorities? Is the prohibition of arka’ot absolute?
The prohibitions of calling a law enforcement agency and turning to the civil courts for relief appear absolute. The Talmud, Gittin 7a, records the case of Mar ‘Ukba who complained that certain men were disturbing him. He asked R. Elazar whether he had the right to report them to the non-Jewish authorities.
[R. Elazar] wrote [to him in response], “‘I said, I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with my tongue; I will keep a curb upon my mouth
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kosher food as kosher if he would submit to the authority of a Bet Din or if he would subsequently refrain from his fraudulent behavior.
35 Hoshen Mishpat 26:1. 36 Rosh to Baba Kamma, ch. 10, no. 14. Although, according to Shulhan Arukh, Hoshen Mishpat 28:3, the hillul Hashem occurs only in those cases in which Jewish witnesses have been specifically designated to testify by non-Jews, Bah maintains that Rosh’s position applies in our own day, even when such witnesses have not been officially summoned. This is due to the potential consequences to the Jewish community because of withholding information.
37 Teshuvot Rema, no. 52 maintains that it is prohibited because of lifnei iveir, the stumbling block prohibition, Lev. 19:14.
38 Tashbatz, IV, Tur 1, no. 6; Yam shel Shlomo, Baba Kama 10:23.
39 See J. David Bleich, “The Bet Din: An Institution Whose Time Has returned,” Tradition27:1, 1992, pp. 58-67.
40 Hil. Sanhedrin 1-2.
41 Rabbi Yosef Eliyahu Henkin, “Madur ha-Halakhah,” Edut beYisrael, p. 167.
while the wicked is before me’ (Psalms 39:2). [That is], although the wicked is before me, I will keep a curb on my mouth.” Mar ‘Ukba again sent [word to] him saying, “They are distressing me very much, and I cannot stand them.” [R. Elazar] replied, “‘Resign yourself to the Lord, and wait patiently [hit’holel] for him.’ (37:7) [That is to say, wait for the Lord, and He will cast them down prostrate [halalim] before you; go to the Bet Hamidrash (the Study Hall) early in the morning and in the evening and there will soon be an end of them.” R. Elazar had barely finished speaking when Geniba (one of the antagonists) was [arrested and] placed in chains [for execution].
Rambam adopts R. Elazar’s opinion as the definitive law and writes, “It is forbidden to turn over a fellow Jew to non-Jews, whether his person or his property, even if [that Jew] is a rasha (evil person) or a sinner, and even if he causes his distress and pain42… It is permissible to report whoever causes distress and pain to the community in order for him to be lashed, imprisoned or fined, but it is forbidden to report him because of the distress he causes [only] to one individual.”43
Yet, as early as the Gaonic period,44 many rabbinic courts lacked the authority to enforce their rulings, creating the potential for lawlessness in the Jewish community. What could a person do to protect himself from an aggressor? How could he retrieve stolen property when the rabbinic courts were powerless in the face of these thieves?
Despite the objection of Keli Hemda that this biblical prohibition should never be waived under any circumstances “because a person is obligated to forfeit all of his wealth and not violate a prohibition,”45 rabbinic courts often granted permission to Jewish litigants to turn to the general courts for adjudication and for enforcement of their legal rights.46 And if a person refused to attend a Jewish court or to submit himself to its authority, rabbinic tribunals granted permission to the plaintiff to submit his complaint to the general courts.47 In each of these cases, there is no violation of the arka’ot prohibition as the litigants first submitted themselves to the Jewish courts Reporting Jewish Abusers to the Civil Authorities 10
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42 Hil. Hovel u-Mazik 8:9. See Hoshen Mishpat 388:9.
43 Hil. Hovel u-Mazik 8:11. Concerning the distinction Rambam made between individual and communal distress, Hatam Sofer suggests that it is based on R. Elazar’s response to Mar ‘Ukba. R. Elazar told him to go to the Bet Midrash. This, says Hatam Sofer, is possible only for an individual to do, not for an entire community. Ketav Sofer points to the verse, “I will keep a curb upon my mouth while the wicked is before me’ (Psalms 39:2)—before me, an individual, but not before a collective.
44 Rav Paltoi Gaon cited in Piskei ha-Rosh to Baba Kamma 8:17; Otzar ha-Gaonim to Baba Kamma, ch. 8 and Teshuvot, no. 227.
45 Keli Hemda, Parashat Mishpatim.
46 Rosh to Baba Kama 92b, chap. 8, no. 17; Hil. Sanhedrin 26:7; Hoshen Mishpat 26:2.
47 Baba Kama 92b; Rosh to Baba Kama 92b, quoting R. Paltoi Gaon; Teshuvot Ramban, no. 63; Hoshen Mishpat 26:2.
for direction. The prohibition obtains only when one could otherwise successfully adjudicate his concerns in a Jewish court.
There are other circumstances in which it permissible to seek help from arka’ot.
Rambam notes that the prohibition of mesirah restricts a private individual who is being harassed from making a report to the civil authorities. However, when there is a meitzar ha-tzibbur (public menace), informing is permissible.48 While this would seem to restrict an abused wife from calling the authorities on her husband, or a concerned party from reporting an abusive parent, this is not the case. First, the rate of recidivism in child abuse cases is high and therefore a child molester can be considered a “public menace.”49 Second, Shakh records that where a person is a repeat abuser (“ragil le-hakot—strikes on a continuing basis”), one is permitted to report him to the non-Jewish authorities in order to prevent him from abusing again.50 And third, Geresh Yerahim limits Rambam’s reading of the Talmudic statement above (Gittin 7a) to situations in which the abused faces no real personal harm. He points to Rashi’s explanation of Mar ‘Ukba’s complaint that “Certain men are annoying me,” explaining that they were merely insulting him.51 But, if Mar ‘Ukba would have been subjected to greater injury, i.e., physical or financial harm, it would have been permissible for him to complain to the non-Jewish authorities, even though he is just an individual. Similarly, Me’irat Einayim adds that the distress of the private individual that is forbidden to report is tza’ar be-alma (general distress). However, if one is the subject of assault or attacks, reporting is permitted.
In addition, there are situations in which a rabbinic court is ineffective, incapable of adjudicating and powerless to protect victims. This can be for any number of reasons: perhaps one of the parties will not appear before it, perhaps a party will not feel bound by its decision, or perhaps the bet din will be unable to protect one of the litigants from physical or financial harm. Rabbeinu Gershom Ma’or ha-Golah understood that even if someone agrees to come to the rabbinic court, he may be doing so only because he thinks he can delay or obfuscate the proceedings, or because he feels that he will be able to avoid certain punishment or fines if he avoids the civil courts. Rabbeinu Gershom enacted that in such cases the bet din should give the other party permission to go to the general court.52 Radbaz
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48 Hoshen Mishpat 388:12, according to the text quoted by Shakh, no. 59, and Gra, no. 71.
49 Rabbi Eliezer Waldenberg, quoted in Nishmat Avraham, IV, p. 209, maintains that for this reason, child molesters must be reported to civil authorities. See R. Asher Zelig Weiss, “Mesirah la-shiltonot be-hashud be-hit’olelut be-yeladim” in Yeshurun, 5765, p. 659; R. Yehudah Silman, ”Teshuvah le-shei’lah be-inyan divu-ah al pegiyot be-yeladim” in Yeshurun, 5765, p. 661.
50 Shakh, Hoshen Mishpat 388, no. 45 and 60.
51 Rashi, s.v. ha’omdim ‘alai. 52 Manuscript Frankfurt 123, see Rabbi H. Shlomo Sha’anan, Hafna’at tove’a le-bet Mishpat, Tehumin XII, p. 252. See Piskei Ri MiKorbeil in Sha’anan, Ner LiShmaya, pesak 69.
confirms that “this is the practice of all rabbinic courts in every generation in order not to give the upper hand to aggressors and intimidators who do not respect the judgment [of the bet din].”53
In a ruling of great significance for victims of abuse, Rema writes, “A person who attacks others should be punished. If the Jewish authorities do not have the power to punish him, he must be punished by the civil authorities.”54 According to Rema, the victim has the right to go to the civil authorities not just to prevent an attack, but to seek punishment and justice for an attack that has already taken place.55
Support for this position can be found in the Talmudic account, Baba Mezi’a 83b-84a, of the activities of R. Elazar b. R. Shimon. There we are told of R. Elazar’s work for the Roman government—he identified and arrested Jewish thieves and turned them over to the Roman authorities. The Talmud continues:
Thereupon R. Yehoshua, son of Karhah, sent word to him, “Vinegar, son of wine (i.e., reprobate son of a righteous father)! How long will you deliver up the people of our God for slaughter!” [R. Elazar] replied, “I weed out thorns from the vineyard.” Whereupon R. Yehoshua retorted, “Let the owner of the vineyard himself [God] come and weed out the thorns.”… [One day] Elijah met him and remonstrated with him, “How long will you deliver the people of our God to execution!” [R. Yehoshua] replied, “What can I do, it is the royal decree.” [Elijah answered,] “Your father fled to Asia, you flee to Laodicea!”
Although at first glance it appears that R. Elazar is taken to task for cooperating with the Roman authorities, a more careful reading of the passage shows otherwise. R. Yehoshua’s objection was not to R. Elazar’s cooperation with the non-Jewish authorities; that was permissible. He claimed that R. Elazar should not have done what he was doing because of the severity of the punishment to which these thieves were subjected—“How long will you deliver up the people of our God for slaughter!” The punishment imposed by the Romans was the death penalty; the punishment was excessive and did not fit the crime. R. Elazar, he claimed, was endangering Jewish lives. However, if the punishment had been proper and congruent with what Jewish law would impose, even R. Yehoshua would have approved of R. Elazar’s actions.
Furthermore, Elijah the Prophet’s objection was not a legal one, but was a moral one. He felt that someone of R. Elazar’s stature and piety should not engage in such activities. Elijah had no legal objection to R. Elazar’s activities and would have
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53 Radbaz to Rambam, Hovel u-Mazik 8.
54 Hoshen Mishpat 388:7 and Shakh, no. 45; See also gloss of Rema to Hoshen Mishpat 388:9; Ba’i Hayei and Maharam miRiszburg cited in Pahad Yitzhak, Ma’arekhet Hovel be-Haveiro.
55 See Darkei Moshe, Hoshen Mishpat 388 and Teshuvot Maharam MiRizbork cited by Shakh.
sanctioned it for others.56 R. Elazar disagreed, maintaining that the royal decree (i.e., the law of the land) overrode any claim of piety.57 He believed that when it came to the pursuit of justice and the need of society to protect itself and its members from harm, there is little room for pious niceties. All must be done to protect life, body and property.
This passage also teaches that as long as a Jew is operating at the behest of the government, the authority responsible for the welfare of society, collaboration is appropriate.58 Lack of cooperation would cause a breakdown of the society in general and lead to anarchy, lawlessness and danger.59
Rabbi Shalom Yosef Elyahiv ruled that one may report a child abuser to the civil authorities in America, but only if he is certain about the abuse; a false report that can destroy a person’s reputation and life.60 And Rabbi Shmuel HaLevi Wosner, author of Teshuvot Shevet ha-Levi, applies this reading of the Talmud to the case of a tax agent who must report tax fraud to the government for prosecution. Rabbi Wosner obligates this Jew to do so, arguing that 1) this is the law of the country and 2) the report will not cause the imposition of a dangerous sentence on a Jew.61
Furthermore, a child abuser is worse than a meitzar and is in the category of rodef concerning whom one is permitted to do anything to stop the attack.62
Others maintain the prohibitions of mesirah and arka’ot do not apply to these situations altogether. R. Yitzchak Weiss avers that the state has an interest in the safety and welfare of its citizens and one may report those who are endangering that safety.63 Rabbi Herschel Schachter stated that the prohibition of mesirah applies only when testimony assists civil authorities in illegally obtaining the money of, or excessively punishing, another Jew. It does not obtain when it aids a non-Jewish government in fulfilling such rightful duties as collecting appropriate taxes or punishing criminals. When the information concerns the criminal activities of a fellow Jew—as long as the Jewish criminal has also violated a Torah law and even if
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56 See Rashba quoted in Bet Yosef, Hoshen Mishpat 388.
57 See R. Moshe Halberstam, Mesirah le-shiltonot be-mi she-mitolel be-yeladav in Yeshurun 5765, pp. 643-651.
58 Ritva to Baba Mezi’a 83b.
59 Teshuvot Rashba, III:393; Bet Yosef, Hoshen Mishpat 388. 60 “She-eilah be-inyan hoda’ah la-memshalah al hit’olelut be-yeled ‘o be-yaldah” in Yeshurun, p. 641.
61 Teshuvot Shevet ha-Levi II:58. See also Teshuvot Iggerot Moshe, Hoshen Mishpat I:92, which, in a similar situation allows the tax agent to report because even if he did not reports, others would, thus relieving the Jew of sole responsibility..
62 R. Moshe Halberstam, Mesirah le-shiltonot be-mi she-mit’olel be-yeladav in Yeshurun 5765, p. 646.
63 Teshuvot Minhat Yitzhak VIII:148
the punishment will be more severe than the Torah prescribes64—the ban of mesirah does not apply.65
Arokh ha-Shulhan maintains that mesirah was prohibited because of the nature of the autocratic governments under which Jews lived throughout much of history. Such informing often led to dangerous persecution of the entire Jewish community. He maintains that this injunction does not apply to those societies in which the government is generally fair and nondiscriminatory.66
We are not concerned that the procedures of a civil court differ from those of a bet din or that the testimony that the former accepts may be invalid in the latter or even that the punishment may be more severe than that imposed by Jewish law. The Talmud, Sanhedrin 46a, records:
It has been taught: R. Eli’ezer b. Ya’akov said: I have heard that the Bet Din may, [when necessary,] impose lashes and pronounce [capital] sentences even where not [prescribed] by the Torah; yet not with the intention of disregarding the Torah but [on the contrary] in order to safeguard it. It once happened that a man rode a horse on the Sabbath in the Greek period and he was brought before the Court and stoned, not because he was deserving [of this punishment], but because it was required by the times. Again it happened that a man once had intercourse with his wife [in public] under a fig tree. He was brought before the Bet Din and flogged, not because he deserved it, but because the times required it.
Jewish law grants the ability to impose unauthorized punishment, to accept otherwise unacceptable witnesses, all at the discretion of the judges, according to what they deem proper and fitting.67
The Bottom Line
Child abusers must be reported to the authorities. In all states there are mandated reporter—generally those who work with children in some sort of professional capacity—who are obligated by civil law and by Jewish law to report abusers. But even those who are not mandated by state law to report, are obligated by Jewish law to do so. “You shall not stand by the blood of your neighbor” (Lev. 19:16) is not limited to professionals; it applies to everyone.
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64 Ran to Sanhedrin 46a. See, however, Teshuvot Rema, no 88, who maintains that according to Tosafot, Baba Kama 114a, s.v. ve-lo, if the punishment exceeds that prescribed by the Torah, the mesirah prohibition maintains.
65 Rabbi Herschel Schachter, “Dina De-Malchuta Dina,” Journal of Halachah and Contemporary Society, I:1, 1981, p. 118.
66 Arukh haShulhan, Hoshen Mishpat 388:7. This source is authoritatively cited by R. Gedalia Dov Schwartz in “The Abused Child: Halakhic Insights,” Ten Da’at, Sivan 5748, p. 12.
67 Hoshen Mishpat 2:1; Teshuvot ha-Rashba III:393; Teshuvot Panim Me’irot II:155.
It is permissible for a victim of sexual or physical abuse to seek the protection and help of civil authorities. Rabbis and rabbinic courts are powerless to do much in these cases and cannot protect women, children and men from repeat attacks. It is permissible to seek orders of protection and to seek prosecution of the abuser as the law allows.
Many authorities maintain that victims should go directly to the police or the courts for protection. Any delay may prove dangerous. But a word of caution: a small group of authorities interpret these laws more narrowly than outlined above and, in their communities, turning to civil authorities without first obtaining rabbinic permission may have unfavorable and harmful results. Those who do proceed without rabbinic authorization may well be worried about becoming the object of communal censure and pressure, and possibly the withholding of a get. In cases of abuse one must be concerned about harmful results of exposure. Some rabbis rarely, if ever, grant such permission. Others who do consent to the involvement of the police and courts may do so only after great delay. However, victims of abuse must beware that inaction in these cases carries the possibility, indeed probability, of the danger of further abuse by the same person, and the risk to many future victims if the abuser is not exposed and restrained. In almost all cases, abuse victims should certainly rely upon the strong halakhic basis detailed above to seek the necessary protection from the police and courts.
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Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Perry March in the News Again

Investigators May Expand Search for Janet March
WTVF, TN - Feb 20, 2006
Investigators in the Perry March case may be expanding their search for evidence leading to his wife Janet's body.

Perry March Appears In Court
WTVF, TN - Feb 17, 2006
Perry March and his attorneys went before a criminal court Thursday.

Father says Perry March killed wife with wrench
Standard-Speaker, PA - Feb 7, 2006
... discussed in court Monday. Perry March is charged with second-degree murder and abuse of a corpse. Authorities have been looking ...