Sunday, March 20, 2005

Mazel Tov to the Survivors of Rabbi Mordecai Tendler

Breaking News: Rabbi Mordechai Tendler has been expelled from the RCA: "engaged in conduct inappropriate for an Orthodox rabbi.”

I wish the RCA did more, but at least this alleged sex offender is no longer a member of the Rabbinical Council of America.

It's really sort of funny that at least one supporter of Tendler is still making attempts to discredit two women who are dedicated victim advocates. If it wasn't for the bravery of Anne Margolis and Leah Marinelli, Tendler would still be a member of the RCA. I wish we could give them an award or something. Just like survivors, they have been harassed and there have been attempts to ruin their careers as midwives.

Who ever started the blog to attack them. Isn't allowing anyone to post comments. So please feel free to post them here. You can view the slanderous blog at: "Truth"

I think both victim advocates and survivors around the globe have got to take a stand and speak out against such nonsense. If this case was held in a secular court, these sorts of actions would be considered criminal. It's called witness tampering.

7 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

The comment thread over there attacking the survivors is just despicable.

March 21, 2005 6:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I read some of those comments, from those disbelieving solely on the MT family history/empire, status, etc., and wonder what century they've been living in!

We can probably all learn from this thread along with the Protocols posts on jh worch from last fall: Prepare for accusations of mental instability, viscious attacks on your character, screeching denials, and sheer insanity.

Another good example of why it's so unlikely false claims are made under these situations: No one in their right mind would want to go through such a thing if it were not true and they did not feel compelled to expose the truth!!!

March 21, 2005 10:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Interesting:

http://www.jpost.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=JPost/JPArticle/ShowFull&cid=1111030174035

http://www.jpost.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=JPost/JPArticle/ShowFull&cid=1111030174026

Might be good topic for discussion.

March 21, 2005 1:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That 613truth page does not look like slander at all. In fact, the site appears to make no claims whatsoever about Leah and Anne. The site looks more like a brocure for their services than a slander site.

All the site does is identify the same two individuals that are already identified by name in the Jewish Survivors of Sexual Violence blog, and links to the women's professional website.

There might be some veiled malicious intent on the part of the person who made the site, but that does not constitute slander.

March 22, 2005 7:25 AM  
Blogger jewishwhistleblower said...

That's only because the site was changed several times. It began as "Who is attacking MT" and that was how most posted links were writtem.

March 23, 2005 5:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you all say rabbi tendler used his "power" and authority to make these women do things they realy did not want to do?
You say these women ware vornable, and he used them?

How about the fact that some of thes women are now saying that they simply vented to lea marinalli (as a friend) some disagreement they have had with him and she ran with that info and used her own friends, smeared their name and made the life a nightmare all to advace her own agenda?

April 19, 2005 10:34 AM  
Blogger Jinjy said...

Leah and Ann encouraged these women to come forward in order to end a terrible situation. Rabbi Tendler took advantage of his position. The job of a Rabbi, like that of a doctor, is, or should be, one of confidence and trust. Just as doctors are not permitted to have sexual relationships with their patience, so should clergy be forbidden from having sexual relations with their congregants.

Leah and Ann heard from numerous women about their sexual relations with Rabbi Tendler or sexual advances from him. They blew the lid off this situation, which was being swept under the run, not as a means of retaliation, but to protect the community.

The story about Leah and her neighbor was blown way out of proportion and, I am told, Rabbi Tendler's involvement in it was minor. She had no personal reason to go after him. She and Ann did this to protect others from a man who was taking advantage of women in their community.

I do not know the women who were involved with Tendler. I do not live in Monsey. However, the attacks against them are distgusting. I assume they are not totally innocent. I may be wrong about this, because, as I said above, I do not know them, nor do I know the details of their situations. However, I am told they were legally and intellectually able to consent to the relationships they had with Tendler. But, at the same time, they were approached by him at times in their lives that they were most vulnerable (thus the need for restrictions on the clergy-congregant sexual relations). However, they have to live with the fact that they had extramarital relations. They should not be punished further with hateful comments or judgment. We have not walked in their shoes and thus should not judge their actions.

I am incredibly confident that Leah and Ann were acting only with pure intentions. I have known them both for a number of years and I am proud to say they helped me birth my daughter. Personally as well as professionally they are incredible women. Their caring, loving, warm personalities enabled me to have a truly empowering birth. I think they are very brave women for what they did in the Tendler case and I am proud to know them.

April 20, 2005 9:40 PM  

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