Sunday, January 16, 2005

Hold on to your outrage

Thank you to the survivor who wrote the following. . .

Hold on to your outrage; try not to let it overwhelm you, but let it be a tool in further healing and helping you be able to get your story out there somehow.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Transform your rage into action!

I mean positive action. Use that energy to help educate your communities on sexual violence. Write articles, start self-help groups, start consciousness raising groups with your neighbors. . .

January 17, 2005 8:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"Transform your rage into action!"

But let's be clear on one thing: Let no survivor be shamed by having rage in the first place, and know that unexpressed rage can curdle into depression. Focusing it into positive action can of course contribute greatly to healing, but for those other times when beating a pillow or pummelling a stuffed arm chair are needed, so be it. Visualizing your abuser as the recipient of your blows in a self-defense class can be quite a good release as well.
And, while this might sound strange to some, if you're ever in contact with another survivor of the same abuser, I have found that sharing wicked humor about the abuser, sharing uproarious laughter, has the incredible effect of hugely reducing their so-called power over us (fear, shame, etc.), quite liberating.

January 17, 2005 11:13 AM  

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