Tuesday, January 11, 2005

Dating, Marriage and Being a Survivor of Sexual Violence (incest, childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault as an adult)

Below are many issues no one wants to talk about when it comes to surviving sexual violence. I thought this might be a good place to do so.

1. You're an incest survivor and your dating, when do you tell the man or woman you are dating that you are a survivor? Do you ever have to tell?

2. You were sexually violated by either a family member or someone not Jewish. Can you marry a Kohen?

3. You are married or having a relationship with someone, and are being sexually active with them. You start to have flashbacks. What do you do?


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Prior to becoming sexually active with someone again, it would probably be wisest to inform them of the possibility of a flashback. By their reactions, you'd be able to tell whether they were worth becoming intimately involved with.

January 11, 2005 9:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

when I was dating I asked a rabbi if I could marry a kohen if I was d by my father. He said that If I was older than three, If I said it happened then I couldn't marry a kohen but if I said it never happened then I could. Someone told me that this might actually be the hallacha. Does anyone know anything about this?

January 12, 2005 6:45 AM  
Blogger batdina said...

Anonymous, why don't you contact Vicky at the Awareness Center, she could refer you to a sensitive rabbi to ask this question.

January 12, 2005 8:13 PM  

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